Shelley Wray on Grief, Rituals, and Learning to Carry Loss | STRONG LIKE a GIRL

Grief shows up in almost every story we tell on Strong Like a Girl, so this episode we sit down with someone who has spent years walking people through it. Shelley Wray is a grief seminar counsellor and certified funeral celebrant who found her calling as the counsellor at CFB Shilo during the Afghanistan war. We talk about why "what happened" beats "I'm so sorry," why rituals save us, and her belief that grief never really leaves, it just becomes a diamond you learn to carry.Chapters0:00 Telling the truth about grief1:13 Meet Shelley Wray2:44 The work she's proudest of: CFB Shiloh7:01 It isn't how they died, it's what happened10:51 Why grievers need to tell their story13:15 When grief accumulates14:48 Why everyone's talking about grief now16:46 How men and women grieve differently23:30 Rituals save us33:22 The razor blades and the diamond35:23 Why all grief is 100 percent39:05 Grief isn't about death, it's about loss44:45 Just show up: the daily ritual56:49 What still makes life beautiful59:14 The gratitude journal1:01:06 What women need to stop apologizing for1:04:01 Rapid fire1:06:18 Closing reflectionsMentioned in this episodeShelley's grief group: first Monday of every month at Brockie Donovan in Brandon, MB. Anyone can come. https://brockiedonovan.com/Grief Recovery Method: https://www.griefrecoverymethod.com/Connect with Strong Like a GirlWebsite: https://stronglikeagirl.caInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/stronglikeagirl.ca/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/strong-like-a-girl/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/people/STRONG-LIKE-a-GIRLIf this conversation stayed with you, share it with someone who needs to hear it. Chin up, chest out, stay wild, stay strong like a girl.